I was brought up to believe that if I worked hard, I’d reap the rewards of the results. And while at first glance you might be holding up a picket with very similar wording to that which I believed was true, let’s push pause for just a moment, while I unpack the new games playing around in my head.
Good = hard
It started a couple of months ago when my now 13 year old son, a bright and conscientious boy with just a hint of my detail dodging genes mentioned he’d aced another exam without as much as a peak at his books.
I found myself immediately on the defence ‘thou shalt not…’ high horse, when Ryland (remember that name) looked at me and answered with his early teenage wisdom “Mom, it really doesn’t have to be hard for it to be good”. Hmmmm. That one sentence has got me pondering my existence up until this point.
So I started thinking of the various milestones that I consider as my successes over the past couple of decades:
Like when I won an art scholarship, learnt to drive, backpacked Europe (pre-cell phones and Internet), built and sold my first business, started my second (I’m now working on my third), conceived children, bought my first home, learnt to mosaic, and, and, and. These things were not hard, they were fun. No effort in and hey presto – reward out.
The right rewards
I’m realising now with some sort of unveiled clarity, that it’s the easy things that have brought me the greatest successes. I’m ditching the old limiting beliefs and embracing new mantras to take me, and my business, into the next decade:
- 70% is enough (for lower value tasks)
- Play to your strengths (what you both love and are good at)
- Effortlessness (your chances of success increase when it’s not so hard)
- Funproductive (lighten up, get productive while having fun)
What beliefs do you have that could be limiting your success and what new mantras are you now ready to embrace? Please share in the comments.