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Top 8 Ways the Successful Influence People

Here are the ten ways to sell yourself and your product like a pro.

Armand van Rensburg




We’ve all wondered before and, more than that wanted the characteristics of the most successful to influence people and just make people feel incredible about backing this person and their company. It’s not some born-into-you talent, it is purely a skill that, once mastered, is one of the most empowering tools you can have in your “Life Skills” checklist.

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1. Be authentic

This is the number 1 sales technique that has ever worked. People can see straight through your dulled enthusiasm when you are not being you. No matter if you’re trying to sell yourself or a product, being genuine, looking your client in the eye, living the life you perceive to lead is how people will remember you anyway, they might as well put “authentic” on that list as well.

2. Believe in your product

Believe in your product whole-heartedly and it will be the driving force in people believing in your product too. Steve Jobs was no salesman, he was often referred to as impossible to work with, yet a whole generation is brought up on his products.

Are they the best in the world? Not necessarily, but no one cared so much about the value a product would bring to the human experience quite like Steve Jobs.

3. Care about your clients’ needs

Sales is not about ramming garbage down your clients’ throat and not caring about whether your client can actually benefit from it or not. The days of the “hard-sale” are over.

They are the main reason there is a very negative perception about salespeople. Finding out what the client would need your product for, showing them their need and how incredibly your product could fill that need is a way to show you genuinely care.

Follow up calls after the sale of the product and great service are now all part of the sales package. Also, now on your courtesy calls, you may be able to refer your client for another need they have or help them yourself. Keyword here is HELP. You might just get another sale by keeping this method in mind.

4. Master your tone

Ever gone to a drive-thru and the lady in the window asks: “What would you like to order?” in a tone that could make you fall asleep? Imagine buying a house from that person. You wouldn’t, would you? No matter how good her intentions or what a great deal she might have got you, your enthusiasm will be equal to hers, which would lead to you getting into the car, zooting off and never returning.

When speaking or influencing people, your genuine excitement about whatever you are talking about shows the value of it, and how in love YOU are with it. How you control your voice, as well as your body language could be the deciding factor between the client making the big buy, or that person carrying on the conversation at the bar on Friday or not.

5. Have your outcome planned

Why are you doing this? Why would you like to make 1mil in sales a month? To donate more to your favourite charity? To retire your parents? To bring your children up in a better situation than yours? To stay in the house you want? To drive a Ferrari so you can get the hot girlfriend?

Whatever your reasons, if they’re compelling enough, they will drive you to make more of a difference to people’s lives and drive you to produce more value to others to get the sales you work for. The value you provide to people is directly proportionate to your salary.

6. Care about yourself

People automatically judge you within 1/24th of a second on your appearance. Making a good impression starts you in the lead before you even open your mouth. Turning a bad impression into a good one is a hard climb, but always possible!

7. Relationships= Results

I didn’t get this one when I started at 16. It was immediate results and move on, but as I get older, I realise how much the relationships I have built throughout the years have helped me. Ever called a friend because you needed help moving? That’s a relationship you’ve built.

When your friends can tell their friends that they know a person (you) who could help fulfil their need without you ever having to have been anything but good at building relationships, it’s a really great skill to have. Plus, you really meet incredible if you get out of your comfort zone a little.

8. Go For It!

Ever heard the saying: “Life begins outside of your comfort zone.”? One of the most fun ways to expand your relationship, sales, LIFE is to do something you’d usually never do.

Related: (Video) Mastering the Art of Influence

Approach people out of the blue to talk about your product. Talk to that girl at the bar. Go sky-diving. Take the risk and speak in front of 500 people at a seminar (I did it). Be willing to do the things that others won’t. If you want to be where other people couldn’t be, you have to do what other people wouldn’t.

The experiences you’ll have will grow you tremendously and the process will be more fun than you could ever imagine. Once a day, do something that scares the shit out of you. You never know, you might just love the feeling.


What A Grade 1 Sticker Business Taught Me About Business

It’s the very fundamentals that are frequently overlooked amid ambition and “blue sky thinking” – yet, these remain the most crucial element of any business.

Grant Field




When I was a kid, my father believed that instead of getting pocket money, my brothers and I should learn how to make money. Stickers were the school craze when I was in Grade 1, and we wanted a collection for ourselves, so Dad said if we wanted to buy the stickers, we needed to make the money. So, logically, we started a sticker trading business. Dad gave us the start-up money and took us through the basics of business.

We had a cash float for purchases, and learnt about cost price, mark-up and selling price – very basic accounting. We kept recycling that money, making extra and using it to buy more stickers. Then we worked out that if we increased the mark-up, we’d make a bigger profit – so why not make the mark-up as big as possible? The obvious happened. Our prices were too high, and we lost customers.

Valuable business lesson learnt, we came back down to a mark-up that other kids were willing to pay for.

More lessons to learn

Then people came to us and asked if they could take a sticker today and pay us tomorrow. We saw no reason not to trust them. Guess what? They didn’t pay us back. We had bad debt on our hands. When we sold out of stickers, we had cash-flow issues and couldn’t buy more stock. Dad was there to help us out, though, so we received another capital injection to get back off the ground. And this time, if we did extend credit, we loaded it for the privilege of “buy now, pay later” – another lesson learnt.

We ran a proper ledger for the business, tracking our inventory, sales and profit. Even if our “bank” account was a piggy bank, we had a clear record of what was going on. When I look back on it, none of what I learnt was irrelevant.

Today, I run a leading financial services company with billions of rand running through our bank accounts. Even though the finances of the business are run on a much larger scale, the principles of business – those basic principles that we learnt trading stickers – still power our company. And when I see entrepreneurial ventures failing, or when friends come to me for advice because their business is struggling, it’s almost always because they haven’t got these basics right.

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One of the most important lessons I’ve learnt is that if you don’t fully understand how the money is being made, walk away. Whether you are dealing with stickers or financial services, the business principles should be straightforward: money coming in, money going out, and profitability.

Every day, I look at an Excel statement of my company’s forty bank accounts. Every day, I look at the cashflow, and unusual big-ticket items get a note so I know what’s going on. It’s just like that Grade 1 business, only on a bigger scale.

Entrepreneur, thwarted

Once the other kids saw the success of our sticker business, they started to want to get in on the action, so they came to market with their own competing products. At first, we were able to innovate as the competition squeezed our margins and started to impact on our profits. Eventually, the whole situation got completely out of hand and the school banned sticker trading for profit.

While I didn’t become a sticker magnate, the lessons I learnt in Grade 1 remain central to every business I am involved with – get the basics right.

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How To Handle A Director Who Always Says No

Diverse opinions on a board is a good thing — but is it boosting your business, or hindering growth and decisions?

Carl Bates




Do you have that director on your board who always says ‘no’? Regardless of what the issue is, regardless of the context, who raises it or whether or not it is indeed a good idea, their response is either a simple ‘no’ or an elongated perspective on why they disagree? It can even feel at times that they are actively working against the company and against the board. Although they obviously do not see it that way.

Experienced directors will have multiple war stories related to this subject. Aspiring directors should be aware of how to approach these situations when they arise and how to avoid becoming the subject of such stories.

Develop a culture of trust, candour and professionalism

A board’s conduct must be characterised by trust, respect, candour, professionalism, accountability, diligence and commitment. It is the board’s collective responsibility to build this culture and to engage with one another in a productive and effective way.

Dissent should be welcomed when it is constructive and engaging. The idea of being the ‘devil’s advocate’ for the sake of it however, is not the best way to approach this. Dissent should be based on a real belief that the issue has not been fully debated or creates a real challenge for the company going forward.

If you have a director who genuinely believes a different path is right for the company, hear them out and engage in the discussion. In my experience, this often opens up an issue or changes a detail that when taken as part of the whole, improves the decision-making outcome for the board and the company.

Related: Contributing In The Boardroom

Remove the politics from the boardroom

At the heart of this issue is often politics. Politics between directors, who are also shareholders or executives. Politics between the ‘new guard’ and the ‘old.’ Regardless of the genesis, politics really do not have a place in the boardroom and directors who engage in it should be called out by the chairman or another senior director.

In local government I have heard stories of councillors who always vote ‘no,’ so that whenever something goes wrong, they can say “I told you so,” and show the public why they should be re-elected. But that is indeed politics. The boardroom is a very different space. It is private and discussions should be confidential.

Board rotation, a simple solution

While the removal of an errant director should never just be left to resolve itself, there is a simple solution that can support the easy removal of the most difficult directors. The challenge is that it requires forward planning prior to the appointment of any new director.

Directors should only ever be appointed for a predefined term, with automatic rotation at the end of that term. This does not stop you from reappointing a director for a further period. It is, however, always easier to ask someone to consider a further term than it is to tell them that their time has come and they should resign from the board.

Having a predefined term for a director essentially ensures an automatic resignation period. A simple rotation policy for directors is not just good governance, it is a practical step you can take to provide a way out of a sticky relationship.

Ultimately the board as a whole must address issues that detract from the board fulfilling its function as and when they arise. A rotation policy might provide an effective backstop. A high-performance board is one that will tackle the issue head-on.

Read next: How Diversity Drives Board Performance

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The Power Pose: Using Body Language To Lead

Use the way you move and stand and interact with others to become a better entrepreneur and leader.

Howard Feldman




In 2012, the power pose became a global sensation. A Ted Talk by Amy Cuddy hit a staggering 46 million views and became the second most popular Ted Talk in history. The premise was simple – hold a powerful pose and it will not only affect the way you behave but it will even change your body chemistry. Since the talk, the power pose has met with heavy criticism and been labelled as nothing more than pseudoscience. Fortunately for believers, they were proven right. Amy Cuddy released further research this year and it fundamentally proves that this bold stance works exactly how she said it did back in 2012.

The power pose isn’t something that you’d adopt in a meeting or around the office but the science behind it shows how important it is to pay attention to your body language as it can fundamentally change how you are perceived.

Notice how you are noticed

People spend a lot of time reading one another’s body language and the way a person stands or holds their hands or moves can influence how others see them. It’s very natural to judge someone else’s posture, but what about the way they are judging yours? Few people look at how their body language is affecting the way people engage with them.

Related: [Quiz] How Good Are You At Reading Others In Business?

So, what are you supposed to do?

Fake it until you make it

Want to know how can you adapt to become a better leader? You can fake it.

The power pose isn’t the only way to change your mood. Research has shown that whether you laugh naturally or put on a smile and make yourself laugh, your body still releases the same levels of serotonin.

Whether you are really laughing or just pretending to laugh doesn’t matter – they both have the same impact on your demeanour.

Change how others see you

Think about the pose that every athlete adopts when they win a race or achieve something that’s been physically taxing. They hold their hands outstretched in the air. Even blind athletes hold the same pose. It’s big, it’s bold and it’s a physical manifestation of success.

Now consider the defensive pose. The tight hunched shoulders or inward curve of the spine. These poses immediately make a person look nervous, afraid and lacking in confidence. Like the porcupine curling in on itself for protection.

The same ideas apply to daily business life. While the power pose and the athlete pose are not necessarily a team activity, ensuring that you hold your body upright and with confidence means that you’re conveying an attitude of strength. You come across as confident and capable and positive. You are ready to take on anything and overcome the odds.

By contrast, if you are hunched and withdrawn, you come across as nervous and lacking in confidence and these are not the qualities you want associated with you as an entrepreneur and a leader.

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Body language for entrepreneurs

  • Shake hands like a hero. The way you shake hands with someone is very significant in terms of establishing equality. Be even, be firm but don’t pull people towards you or turn their hands under your own. This makes them feel like you are trying to establish dominance.
  • Create an atmosphere of openness. Maintain eye contact, say hello to people with warmth while holding a strong posture. A warm and open greeting is essential to establishing trust.
  • Do the power pose for two minutes before any meeting or interview. This will get those chemicals stirring and make you feel confident and in charge.

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