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3 Qualities You Need To Win On Your First Try

Learning from mistakes is smart. Learning from the mistakes of others is brilliant.




No entrepreneur tries to fail. Even when one is getting into something new, whether a business, an industry or a product, they all expect to succeed.

History books are filled with names of people who had to keep trying before they saw even a semblance of success. While the lessons of resilience and determination are successfully passed on, these inspiring stories can often be misconstrued to mean one cannot win on their first try. How about we look at it another way?

Let’s find people who learned from the failures of their predecessors to win on their first try. Let’s see what lessons we can gather from them. Make no mistake, all had to undergo small failures along the way. However, what they were working on as a whole – whether starting a business venture, getting ahead in their career or running for office – ended in victory.

There are common qualities that successful people applied in their pursuit of success.

1. Drive to pursue the risky

When you’re getting into something new, you aren’t the only person that’s scared for you. Your family and friends are. If you have a team your problems are bigger. And if you have a co-founder and/or board, you may even be prohibited, if others don’t see your vision.

If you believe in it enough, no matter how risky the venture, you should be able to take a stand even when the odds aren’t in your favour. A classic case of relentlessness in the face of failure is Tiziano Motti: Getting elected into the European Parliament is no easy feat, let alone winning on your first try. Yet Motti was able to not just win on his first try, he did it on an independent ticket.

Adopting what he calls the “Pop Politics” model, he was able to beat his competitors by taking a different approach that placed above everything else, modern marketing and communication strategies. He said, “My campaign was based essentially on planned marketing strategies and communication patterns drawn around my entrepreneurial and showmanship characteristics, with a hint of the American presidential model.” This innovation gave him confidence to take the risk he was taking leaving little room for fear to thrive.

His first-time success has been detailed in a book dedicated to his story, Sono come te, dammi fiducia which in English means, “I’m like you, trust me.” Driven by the vision of change he wanted to see in the community, Motti left no room to fear the risk he was taking.

Similarly, if you’re going to pursue something, even if for the first time, you can’t leave room for failure. Scott Adams, the creator of Dilbert, calls himself an irrational optimist and that’s probably what you need to be when pursuing a risky idea for the first time: Believe it will work and get to it.

Related: Learn From The Best: This System Helps Google Measure Their Success

2. Passion to learn

When you think of personalities like Andrew Carnegie and Henry Ford, you see very successful people who took great risks and ended up shaping entire industries. You also see school dropouts. However, as Napoleon Hill argues in Think & Grow Rich, these men were far from uneducated. They took the time to learn their trade because they understood that knowledge is a key ingredient to the success of all new things.

A growing business is heavily reliant on knowledge about its industry, customers and competitors, etc. Winning a political seat or moving up your career ladder requires you to accumulate a certain amount and quality of knowledge first.

Luckily, this is a plentiful resource for many businesses and individuals. It comes in form of libraries, the internet, mentors, customers, employees, industry leaders and personal experience, to name a few sources. The trick is in acquiring/gathering this knowledge and how you share and exploit it to serve your purpose.

It doesn’t necessarily have to be about shining new ideas and clever products. It also doesn’t require you go back to school and get an MBA. You can learn a lot about your trade from the workplace experience of the average employee, daily processes and product designs, market research and your customers. The difference between a winning entrepreneur and a losing one can be found in how eager they are to improve their knowledge base.

3. Knowledge of oneself

Speaking of knowledge, self-awareness is one of the greatest assets of successful people. Self-awareness is about knowing and coming to terms with who you are as a person. Not just who you think you are when you introduce yourself as “an entrepreneur” or “an engineer” or “a software developer.”

When you’re self-aware, you understand why you feel the way you do and how your behaviour manifests in different situations. When you understand these truths about yourself, you can then embark on improving. The Johari Window can be an important tool to help you understand yourself and your relationships better.

Related: 25 Of The Most Successful Business Ideas In South Africa

Motti explains that one of the things that kept him going was this knowledge of self. “I knew all I needed to know to be confident in myself,” he said. “You can only afford to take risks if you understand them and know yourself. Self-awareness gives you a license to be optimistic.”

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Ayodeji Onibalusi is an inbound marketing expert and advocate of high quality digital marketing. He has over five years of experience helping companies create winning content distribution strategies. You can check out his company website for bespoke guest blogging and link building plans that best fits your business.

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4 Ways to Stop Worrying in 2019

If you’re a bit of a worry-wart, you have to acknowledge this and get proactive about managing your stress, anxiety and worrying levels. Here’s how.





What if I can’t complete that piece of work in time? What if my home gets burgled while I’m on holiday? We all worry – some people more than others. A few of these worries are genuine concerns, but most are completely out of our control and are most likely never to materialise.

But still, they occupy our minds. And with the digital world now occupying even more of our time, we’ve been given even more material to worry about. Famines in far-away countries, children orphaned by a flood, if we simply turn on our TVs or look to social media, we can become completely overwhelmed by what we see. And it’s making us all desperately unhappy.

So, what do we do? If you’re a bit of a worry-wart, you have to acknowledge this and get proactive about managing your stress, anxiety and worrying levels. Here’s how:

Monitor and limit social media


We all know our phones are an addiction. And scrolling through Twitter or Instagram, you can compare your life to everyone else’s and add another huge worry to your ever-growing list: I’m not good enough/my life sucks. Which is why there’s a growing trend among Generation X-ers (and even some Millennials), to quit social media altogether.

“It was like breaking an addiction for the first few days, where I felt I was missing out, but after a few weeks I realised that the world carries on, and I was still in touch with those people I actually wanted to connect with. I felt lighter and happier,” says Caryn White*, a mother-of-two and small business owner. If you can’t quit social media for work reasons, then take it off your phone, and only access it on your desktop at specific times of the day.

Limit news

We’re not advocating sticking your head in the sand: just limit which channels you absorb news from, and how often you do it. The last thing you need is to open up your phone on waking up and read about the latest catastrophe, which you are powerless to do anything about.

Pick a few trusted news sources and check them at specific times. Avoid the news on the radio in your car; rather listen to fascinating audio books or podcasts that lift your mood instead of making you worry.

Assumption or fact?

This simple concept is incredibly helpful when faced with a worrying situation. Your child has a strange rash, you’ve Googled it and you’re pretty sure it’s chickenpox. Now the whole family is going to get it, you’ll miss work, your boss will be angry, and you may lose your job. Is the fact that your child has chicken pox an assumption or a fact?

Is losing your job a fact or an assumption? They’re both assumptions. So, take your child to the doctor, get a proper diagnosis and then take the next steps from there (a good medical aid can also help ease the stress of the financial cost of doctors’ visits). This approach is a simple way to deal with worries that start to spiral out of control in your mind.

Write them down

Worrying can seem insurmountable if it’s all in your head. Instead, try this strategy from Qualified FAMSA Counsellor Lynette Blomfield:

  1. Take a few deep breaths with your eyes closed, until you calm down.
  2. Once you’re calm, write down the five most stressful things on your list. It could be increasing expenses, like a huge jump in medical aid costs per month.
  3. Brainstorm what you could do to change or eliminate the worry/problem (maybe you can move to a medical aid company that charges less each month?). If necessary, ask a good friend or colleague for advice.
  4. Focus on making progress, not ticking all your worries off and striving for ‘perfection’.
  5. Stay on course and come back to your list regularly.

Dealing with worrying is about being proactive. You’re the only one that can begin the process of reducing anxiety, so now’s the time to take some steps. If you don’t know how to begin doing this on your own, it may be best to see a qualified counsellor or therapist to get you started.

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These 6 Types of Music Are Known To Dramatically Improve Productivity

Just another example of how much you gain by listening.




Music isn’t just a means of entertaining ourselves: it can also encourage creativity and help us become more productive. Listening to music can also be therapeutic, relieving feelings of stress so you can concentrate better.

Research has found that certain types of music can be beneficial to us while we work. Some types of music seem to help with learning and improve our ability to process information. Other types help block out distracting background noise. Still other types sync with our brain waves to induce “eureka moments.”

So, if you’re struggling with productivity and want to know what you should be listening to, read on. These are the six types of music that will give you a major boost in productivity.

1. Classical Music


Researchers have long claimed that listening to classical music can help people perform tasks more efficiently. This theory, which has been dubbed the Mozart Effect,” suggests that listening to classical composers can enhance brain activity and act as a catalyst for improving health and well-being. Various studies have confirmed that listening to classical music enhances one’s ability to manipulate shapes and solve spatial puzzles.

The absence of words in the music may be one factor, as songs that contain lyrics have been found to be a distraction when you’re trying to focus. And classical music is known for being calming, relaxing and helping reduce stress. This genre of music has been found to help students perform 12 percent better on their exams. Some selections, like Beethoven’s “Für Elise,” seem to help students study longer and retain more information.

Here are other few classical selections you can use to boost productivity while working:

2. Nature Music


Listening to the sounds of nature, like waves crashing or a babbling brook, has been shown to enhance cognitive function and concentration. Nature sounds work best when they’re soothing sounds, such as flowing water or rainfall, while more jarring noises such as bird calls and animal noises can be distracting.

Researchers at Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute have discovered that natural sounds boost moods and focus. The study found employees were more productive and had more positive feelings when nature sounds were playing in the background while they worked.

This may be because nature sounds helped mask harsher, more distracting noises, such as people talking or typing. Researchers found that workers not only performed better on tasks, but calming nature sounds also had a restorative effect on cognitive abilities.

Here are some selections to try:

3. Cinematic Music


An intense film score can make you feel like you’re doing something inspiring or important, even if you’re just chipping away at your to-do list. A grandiose, epic soundtrack playing in the background may make even the most mundane tasks feel like you’re changing the world, thus heightening your concentration and productivity.

Cinematic music scores can be empowering, lifting your spirits and brightening your mood. So, if you’re feeling tired and drained, try listening to some epic-style cinematic music to give you that extra boost of motivation.

Some great movie scores to try include:

4. Video Game Music


It might seem strange, but listening to music composed for video games can be a great tool to help you focus. Every element of a video game is designed to create an enhanced gaming experience for all your senses, and the music has been composed specifically to help you focus on your task without being distracted by a cacophony of sounds.

This music generally has no lyrics or human voices and is fairly fast-paced to keep you moving forward. Many of these video games involve solving puzzles and dealing with intense situations, so you’re subjecting yourself to simulated stressful challenges. Video games have invested a lot of resources in figuring out the perfect balance to the music they use.

Video game music is composed in a way that keeps you engaged as you evaluate, navigate and often fight your way through these make-believe worlds. These musical compositions may be just the thing to propel you onward and keep you zooming through your tasks and daily to-do list.

Here are some excellent video game music selections to check out:

5. Music between 50 and 80 beats per minute


Some research suggests that it’s not the type of music that’s important in helping you stay focused and productive, but the tempo of that music. Studies have found that music with 50 to 80 beats per minute can enhance and stimulate creativity and learning.

Dr. Emma Gray, a cognitive behavioural therapist, worked with Spotify to research the benefits of certain types of music. She found that listening to music set in the 50- to 80-beat range puts the brain into an alpha state.

When we’re awake, we’re typically in a state of mind known as beta, a heightened state of alertness where our brain-wave activity is between 14 and 30 HZ. When our brain slows to between 7 and 14 HZ, we’re in a more relaxed alpha state of mind that allows us to be more receptive and open, and less critical. This state of mind is what scientists associate with activities that involve our imagination, memory and intuition, including our “eureka moments.”

If you have ever listened to music that you’re familiar with, only to find yourself deep in thought and not really hearing the music at all, this is an alpha state induced by music. You’re tuning out while being tuned in.

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10 Secrets To Finding A Job You Love

Entrepreneur and social media sensation Gary Vaynerchuk and nine others tell us how they found their calling and how you can find yours.




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Research suggests that more than half of us are unhappy at work. From lawyers to brokers and CEOs, these Advisors in The Oracles are proof it’s possible to be successful and have a job you love. Here, they share how they found work that fulfills them — and how you can too.

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